I often feel a little guilty for getting overwhelmed by my little family. Lets face it I have two adorable little girls. Yes I said 2, and yes I said they overwhelm me at times. I know 2 is not too many.
I have many friends with 5, or 6, or even a couple of amazingly accomplished friends who juggle 12. And that is where my guilt really settles in. I think to myself; they (my friends with 12 children) both homeschool too. They both do an amazing job at it. They both seem to have it together. They both juggle various other activites. And they both hardly seem to miss a beat.
And here I am ready to pull my hair out with 2 little girls. I don’t have boys that are busy breaking bones, or eating mouse bait. They don’t bring snakes in my house, or kick holes in my walls. But still….
I guess I should be honest, they are extremely busy and strong willed children. It takes a great deal of creativity and manipulation to get things done the way I want, or when I want them done. They are good at making messes and their busy curiosity has ended with baking soda all over my house, and pomegranite seeds floating in their bath water. But they can also be extremely helpful and loving.
Regardless of the number of kids, or how difficult they may or may not be to raise, or other life factors that causes moms stress; I, and I think all other moms, need a breather every now and then.
A few days ago I was feeling that completely overwhelmed feeling. You know that feeling, the one where you wake up and don’t really know why you’re down but you feel like the life has been sucked out of you, your ambition is zapped and you’d much rather hide your head under the pillow and pretend no one else exists. (Just for a minute or 2 though).
So what did I do? I got out of bed. I got the kids ready, got their school work done, and had them do their chores. Then, here comes the good part, I shipped them off across the field to grandmas house. And I took myself a little “ME”cation!
I have to mention how fortunate I am to live next to wonderful parents who love their grandchildren and are willing to babysit. Thank you! Thank you! Thank you Mom and Dad.
I have to admit my “ME”cation wasn’t a glamourous getaway to a spa, or to get a maussage, or to sit on a warm beach. (I wish!) But I will tell you what I did do. I came home and laid on the couch and closed my eyes. I simply listened to the quiet and let a good 30 minutes pass by. Then I got up and cleaned my house. I wish I could be the type of person that can enjoy a restful moment in a mess, but I feel much more rested when the kitchen is clean. Once the house was in order, I went to the gym. When I really need a pick up the best way to accomplish it is to work out. I need my blood to flow, and my mind to clear, and I need a good dose of endorphins. I finished the night by reading a book and soaking in a bath with magnesium oil. Then I went to bed early and got the great priveldge of sleeping through the night without interruption.
The best part is what it did for me. I woke up refreshed. I was ready to have my kids back in my arms. I was ready to deal with their messes. I was ready to play with them, and teach them. I was ready to smile and make dinner, and calmly correct them when they do things wrong. I was ready to take on the world. All of that because of a clean house, a trip to the gym, and a good nights sleep. YEAH!
I’m not writing this to make you jealous or to gloat in the fact that I can get away with “me” time. I’m writing this to remind you that you need to take care of you too. And at times, you need to pull the strings necessary to have your own “Me”cation. It doesn’t matter if it is for thirty minutes in the early morning or a once a week afternoon, or a once a year send the kids to grandmas house for a day. You will be glad you took care of yourself, and so will your family.
Whether you have 2 kids or 12, whether you have a busy career or a cat; we all need to take time out of our lives to focus on our own health and well being. So if your feeling burden, if mommy needs a time out, then just take one already!
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